Reaching my 60th birthday has led me to a period of profound introspection. As I reflect on the fact that three-quarters or more of my life is behind me, I feel a heightened awareness of my own mortality. However, I view this as a positive force; it compels me to consider how I want to spend the years that lie ahead. I take stock of my experiences—both the gains and the losses—and contemplate what I still wish to achieve.
When I reflect on my life so far, I find beauty in the world around me and feel deep gratitude for life itself, as well as for my family, friends, fulfilling work, and the abundance in my life. When I mention abundance, I refer to the simple blessings: a healthy day, clean air and water, a roof over my head, clean clothes, food to eat, access to healthcare, and the recognition of human rights—though I acknowledge that much work remains in strengthening urgency around human rights for all. Phrases such as "If this is not heaven, what is" and "how grateful I am for all there is" often leave my lips.
Now, let’s talk about the losses. Many I embrace with deep gratitude, while others weigh heavier on my heart. I am relieved to have let go of the urge to compete constantly with others and to no longer crave material possessions. I no longer feel the need to show off which really was strong in me at one time, and I have become more forgiving of both myself and others. I worry less about what others think of my family, my appearance, or my home. I’ve learned the value of silence and patience, allowing life to unfold at its own pace without jumping in and interfering, trusting that I can only do my part, and life will take care of the rest.
However, I struggle with the changes in my body. The loss of muscle mass, despite my best efforts to exercise and eat well, is a challenge. The unwanted weight gain around my midsection and thighs feels burdensome, and my always thin-hair scalp is thinning even more. Deep, uninterrupted sleep has become a rare luxury. While I understand that these physical changes are a natural part of aging, my mind finds it difficult to embrace this reality.
What I have gained, however, is significant. I take pride in recognizing the interconnectedness of all life, understanding that nothing happens until it is the right time, and realizing that what I consider my best work may not be valued by the world. I appreciate the profound truth that, as human beings, we share far more similarities than differences. I have learned to cherish the present moment rather than dwell on the past or fret about the future and finding joy in the gift of time with family and friends. Most importantly, what I cherish is the profound truth that everything changes – why suffer when possessions are lost, plans do not come together on my schedule, relationships are lost, or death comes knocking at my door to make room for new life.
On the whole, my life has been filled with beauty on various levels. The highs have been thrilling, while the lows have been deep and painful, yet every encounter has molded me into the person I am today. I had to go through them to get to this mental clarity.
My goal for the future is to live in harmony with all living beings.
This journey has been truly remarkable! I believe that the path that lies ahead will be equally fulfilling.
This is so beautiful, Kiran, and so, so candid. Bless you and lots of power, love and energy for the many lovely years ahead.